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These 3 mistakes will make your divorce worse than it needs to be

There are certain things that divorcing spouses do, time and time again, that make their divorces much worse than they have to be. The list of divorce "mistakes" is long, and that's why separating spouses can benefit from working with an experienced attorney who can guide them away from common pitfalls.

Here are three marriage dissolution pitfalls that divorce lawyers are often helping their clients avoid:

Can I receive court orders for grandparents' visitation?

Grandparents do not automatically have the right to spend time with their grandchildren as a general rule of thumb. The parents must approve of the grandparents' visitations in order for them to occur. Nevertheless, in certain unique scenarios, a Texas family law court might intervene to ensure that the children can spend time with their grandparents.

Here's when a court might intervene:

Communication problems, fighting and divorce

One of the easiest ways to bring any relationship to a close is to simply stop talking. Relationships require an exchange of ideas and a sense of connection through words to flourish. It's also important for that communication to be respectful and healthy. If there is plenty of communication but it's filled with contention, aggression and fighting, this can also bring a marriage to a close.

Let's look a little bit closer at communication problems related to not enough quality communication and constant fighting in a marriage and how they lead to divorce:

Child custody during military deployment

Divorced parents who serve in the military face unique child custody challenges when they share children with an ex-spouse if there's a possibility that they could be deployed to active duty in a different location. For this reason, every divorced military servicemember who has children and could be deployed needs to create a military child custody plan that appropriately addresses the following concerns.

Your child custody plan should clearly state with whom your children will live during military deployment, temporary duty, mobilization and unaccompanied tours.

Can I move out of the house with my kids?

When you're preparing for your divorce process, if you and your spouse have children together, you shouldn't simply move out with your children – no matter what kind of agreement or arrangement you've made with your spouse. Any kind of preemptive move (either away from your children or with your children) from the primary residence may not bode well for you during your child custody proceedings.

Spouses who simply leave their homes without their children could be viewed by the court as having "abandoned" their children. Spouses who leave their homes with their kids could be viewed by the court as having "kidnapped" their children. Neither option will be good as you vie for your parental rights during your court proceedings.

The push-pull marriage: Your relationship should not be painful

There's a lot of talk in psychological circles that says "Relationships take work," "A successful marriage will not be easy," and "You must uncover your own psychological demons to achieve success in your marriage." All this talk might make the average person think that it's normal to suffer in a marriage, but this is certainly not true. Relationships and marriage should bring you happiness -- not suffering.

Even though relationships require a certain amount of work and compromise, individuals in a toxic union need to know when to throw in the towel and liberate themselves. For example, when a toxic, push-pull relationship takes center stage -- whether you're "pushing," "pulling" or just being victimized -- divorce might be the only way to fix the pain that comes along with your spouse is not able to change.

Military spouses: You're entitled to receive retirement benefits

Military spouses put up with a great deal of hardship. They're often tasked with taking care of house and home all by themselves while their spouses are away on overseas missions. Not only must these spouses endure loneliness, lack of companionship and the need to do everything themselves -- but they will also worry about whether their spouses will make it home alive.

The stresses and pressures of being a military spouse could be enough to lead to divorce, but whatever the reason for a military spouse's divorce, these men and women will usually be entitled to continue receiving military benefits, including military retired pay when their spouses finally retire.

Supervised visitation: Frequently asked questions

Supervised visitation is an excellent way for parents to spend time with their children in a controlled and safe environment. Although most parents subjected to supervised visitations don't choose to have these arrangements by choice, these parents may be able to see supervised visits as a positive because -- if not for supervised visits -- they might not be able to see their children at all. If a judge has ordered supervised visitation in your child custody case, you might benefit from knowing the answers to the following questions about the process:

When do courts order supervised visitations?

Strategic planning for your parenting agreement

Wouldn't it be wonderful if divorce were pain- and stress- free? Wouldn't it be great if two spouses simply had to walk into their local courthouse, spend a few minutes signing some papers and walk out divorced? Unfortunately, due to the complexity of dividing marital assets, this kind of simplicity isn't likely to be possible. Especially, it will not be possible for two parents who need to consider and decide a wide variety of important matters pertaining to their children.

When two parents are getting divorced in Texas, they need to codify their decisions about child custody and parenting time in a parenting agreement, and it could take some carefully considered negotiations before such a parenting agreement is complete. Here's what parents should include in such a document:

4 reasons to sign a prenuptial agreement

Younger couples are more inclined to sign a prenuptial agreement before getting married these days. Perhaps it's because many soon-to-be spouses have grown up with divorced mothers and fathers, and they know the realities of marriage and divorce better than the generations that preceded them. Whatever the reason, these young couples are better at recognizing the potential benefits of creating an action plan that will go into effect in the event that they ever need to dissolve their marriages.

If you're considering a prenuptial agreement, here are four signs that you could definitely benefit from one:

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