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Getting married? It's time to talk about a prenuptial agreement

Before you get married, you might want to consider a prenuptial agreement. A prenup can help you and your spouse-to-be protect one another against each other's debts and can help you determine what you want to see happen if you later divorce.

Many people don't want to talk about prenups, because they think that it means that they don't trust their fiances. That myth couldn't be further from the truth. In reality, using a prenup shows that you want to talk about the future and that you want to protect the person you're marrying as well as yourself if the marriage ends.

Emotions running high? It's possible to avoid trial

Emotions often run high during a divorce, so it's not a surprise that you and your spouse may not be getting along. It's important for you both to sit down and think about how you'd like to move forward, though. While you can continue to fight, fail to negotiate and ignore each other, it's really better for you both to work this out on your own if you can.

When you can negotiate with one another without a court's intervention, you'll save time and money. When you have to go to court, it could delay your divorce by weeks or months. You could end up with more frustration and anxiety than if you'd been able to settle long before that. On top of everything else, you'll have to appear at a hearing, prepare documents for the court and live with the results the judge decides on. It's not a perfect situation, but it is a possibility if you can't both decide on a solution to your dispute.

If you have limited parenting time, your actions matter

Having custody of your child as a single parent has its benefits and downsides. On one hand, you're able to make the rules in your house. You are the only person your child answers to while they're with you. You can make plans and carry them out.

On the other hand, you have to stick to a custody schedule and can't always be there for your child. You don't see them as much as you'd like, and it's hard on both of you.

Divorcing after supporting your spouse? Alimony may be possible

You worked much of the time during the first few years of your marriage, but after your spouse made it through medical school and was hired on as a surgeon, you were prepared to take a break. You had supported them all this time, covered their schooling fees and worked hard. Now, it is supposed to be your turn to focus on schooling and the career you want to build for yourself.

That doesn't seem to be going according to plan, though. You found out that your spouse has been seeing someone else, and you are furious. You spent all of your time and money supporting them, and this is what you get in the end.

How can you deal with a troubled child after divorce?

When your kids are in their teens, one of the things that could start happening is that they try to leverage you or their other parent to get the things they want. Whether it's trying to convince you both that they're at the other parent's home for the night while they really go out to a party or just trying to manipulate which home they're in when they might have been in trouble in the other, it's a definite struggle.

Parents who have a child who is testing boundaries should be smart about their reactions. You're split between homes, which does make this harder to deal with. That's why you need to work on communication and make sure you're both sticking with the penalties and requirements you expect your child to adhere to.

On active duty? You may still get custody

You love your kids, but the reality is that you're in active service. As a result, you could be asked to deploy at almost any time and potentially without much warning. You want to maintain custody of your children while you're in the United States, but you know that the court may frown on the potential for you to leave unexpectedly.

While your military service shouldn't hinder your right to custody, it can certainly influence the way custody is handled. It may make sense for a parent who isn't likely to deploy to have custody the majority of the time. It depends on your situation.

Get the right help while dealing with divorce during deployment

You've been deployed for some time, and you didn't expect to have to deal with more than is already on your plate. Unfortunately, your spouse at home decided that now is the perfect time for them to file for divorce.

You have months left in your deployment, so how can you handle this situation? The first thing you need to do is to talk to your attorney. The good news there is that your attorney can help you take steps to stop the divorce from proceeding until you're able to return to the United States (or from deployment, if within the U.S.).

If you're deploying, should you make a new custody plan?

You and your spouse have both been in the military your entire relationship. When you decided to have a child, you knew it would be difficult and could add an element of stress to your lives.

After your child was born, you did find that things became hectic, and your spouse seemed to want to be away from everything. Though they weren't meant to be deployed, they volunteered for deployment. This led to a massive fight and your eventual visit to an attorney.

Who really needs a prenuptial agreement?

If you haven't thought about getting a prenuptial agreement, you might think that you don't really need one. Perhaps you and your partner don't have many assets or don't think that you're wealthy enough to need a prenuptial agreement.

Interestingly enough, even those without significant assets can benefit from having prenuptial agreements in place. You're joining all the assets you have when you get married, and you may have some, even if they're small, that you want to protect. You can also use a prenuptial agreement to talk about how you'll divide marital assets or possessions if you later decide to divorce.

A stay just might put your divorce on hold

A military divorce isn't always simple. Sometimes, there are delays, and you might be frustrated with the whole process. For example, you might file for divorce in January, but if your spouse leaves on duty in February, you might end up with a stay. A stay will prevent any rulings until they can appear in court (in most cases). Courts can extend those stays in some cases, or they can ask for appointed counsel to appear on behalf of the service member.

You should be aware that the Servicemembers Civil Relief Act does allow for a stay, but that doesn't mean that your spouse can ignore the divorce. If your spouse is out of the country and fails to file a stay or just plain ignores the divorce papers without seeking a stay, then the case might be able to move forward without them.

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