Everyone thinks they have great divorce advice — even if they haven’t experienced divorce. Some of the worst divorce advice seems to come from those who haven’t experienced this life-changing event. Here are a few pieces of advice on divorce that you should probably avoid at all costs.
— Wait a year before you date. For many people, the problems with their marriages started before the filing for divorce. It’s not like someone just woke up and said, “I want a divorce.” How long someone waits to date is completely up to him or her, and no one should tell him or her otherwise.
— Don’t ever get married again. This usually comes from married people who can’t imagine getting married again should they ever divorce. If you feel ready to marry again at some point after your divorce, go for it. It’s your choice.
— Happy endings are only found in movies. There are plenty of people who are happier after getting divorced. It wasn’t something that happened overnight and they had to work on themselves to get there. However, if you want to be happy, you can be.
— Don’t be angry. It’s for losers. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. You’re allowed to be angry. And you’re allowed to hold onto that anger for a while. However, you’ll need to let go of it at some point in order to find your happiness.
Not all divorce advice is bad, though. The advice you get from your divorce attorney is some that you really need to pay attention to. You can begin your new life as a single person with more than you thought if you let your lawyer fight for what you rightfully deserve.
Source: Huffington Post, “10 Pieces of Really Bad Divorce Advice,” Jackie Pilossoph, Aug. 31, 2016