Trying to determine what is in the best interests of the child can be difficult. Both parents may have their own beliefs as to what is best and neither are willing to give an inch. What does this mean for the parents and the child? It means that there will have to be another way to resolve this child custody dispute.
Litigation: When two parents disagree about child custody, they often head to court to let the judge decide. It's expensive and time-consuming, and you're leaving the decisions about your child in another person's hands. If you can use an alternative to litigation to resolve your dispute, you all maybe better off.
Mediation: This is a good way to try to come to an agreement about child custody. The parents are helped by an impartial mediator, who helps guide the two to a mutually agreed upon resolution. It's not binding, so attorneys will have to draw up the final agreement and submit it to the court for approval.
Collaborative law: Each parent will have a collaborative lawyer, who will not be able to litigate the case for them later at trial. A collaborative coach may help the two parents with coming to an ultimate resolution. Child specialists are used to make sure that input from the children is considered and a financial expert can be involved if money matters are involved.
If the above fails, then perhaps it's time to try simply talking to your ex. Perhaps the two can simply try talking it out. An attorney can help to make the process easier.
Source: The Good Men Project, "But What if We Can’t Agree? 6 Ways To Resolve Legal Custody Issues," Rebecca A Myers, accessed Oct. 28, 2016