One of the most difficult times in your life is likely to be when you realized your marriage was over and it was time to get a divorce. In the civilian world, a divorce can be devastating. A military divorce can be even more devastating and complicated.
Trying to get everything right when it comes to child custody, property division, benefits division and relocations can make a military divorce seem endless. Trying to wade through all the legal ramifications can be really difficult, especially with the combination of federal and state laws. The cost is often an issue, too, especially if there is animosity or even just disagreements about major decisions that must be made.
Hiring an attorney to advocate for you is important. However, it is crucial that your attorney is well-versed in military law and military divorce. An experienced attorney can also help relieve a lot of the stress of the divorce process.
You want to make sure you have all your paperwork documenting your assets and debts. For example, have your taxes from the past few years, know what the balance is on your mortgage and get a valuation on that classic car the two of you rebuilt. Dividing assets and benefits can be a very lengthy process. When you're organized and have the necessary records, you can help speed the process along.
Finally, make sure to take care of yourself. A military divorce is not usually a fast process. It's something that you will have to deal with for a few months at the least. Get enough rest, eat right, exercise and talk to someone if you feel the stress is getting to be too much. It will be over at some point and you will be able to move forward with your life.
Source: taskandpurpose.com, "How To Embrace The Suck Of Military Divorce," Sarah Sicard, accessed Nov. 12, 2016