A recent study by two sociologists from Bowling Green State University found that divorce rates for those below the age of 50 are declining or staying the same. It also found that for every four people divorcing, one is over the age of 50.
One woman who is in that demographic and whose divorce was final a little more than four months ago says the lessons she’s learned can help anyone who is going through a divorce. Here are three of those lessons:
— Ask for help when needed: Once divorced or even separated, there are some household tasks that won’t be done by your ex. These tasks can include everything from mowing the lawn to taking care of taxes to handling a legal matter. If you don’t know how to take care of one task or another, then ask someone for help. Your neighbor may be able to help you find someone to mow your yard or teach you how. Your divorce attorney can likely recommend an accountant or a lawyer experienced in another legal area.
— Focus on yourself: For most people, the focus has been on their spouse and children for many years. It can be difficult to learn to focus on yourself instead of someone else. There’s nothing wrong with a bit of pampering or marking an item or two off your bucket list.
— You can get over your ex: This may seem impossible at times, but it will happen. You might think that the opposite of love is hate, but choosing indifference instead is a better choice. You might still care about your ex, but it’s your turn to look upon the world with a newfound zest for life.
Divorce is one of the most emotional events in your life. The process is not easy for most people; however, learning to move forward and not live in the past is one of the most important steps you can take.
Source: Huffington Post, “A Baby Boomer’s Post-Divorce Musings: Lessons Learned 4 Months In,” Sharl Lifland, Dec. 02, 2016