Millennials are getting more life experience before settling down to get married. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and the National Center for Family and Marriage Research have some interesting statistics for married couples, including the following:
— First marriages last at least 10 years for 70 percent of men and 68 percent of women.
— First marriages last at least 20 years for 56 percent of men and 52 percent of women.
— Between 1965 and 1974, only 11 percent of women lived with their partner before they were married.
— Between 2005 and 2009, 66 percent of women were living with their partner before they were married.
According to a marital and family therapist from Tennessee, cohabitating couples may be on the right track, but there could be a lack of commitment on both parts. Those couples in their 20s who live together have a chance to develop values, morality, empathy and how what each person does affects the other person in a marriage.
If children are involved, though, there is a lower level of commitment for those in their 20s and 30s. One factor of this is because many people are children of divorce themselves and don’t want to repeat that scenario with their own children.
Another important point in young marriages is individuality. For example, once the honeymoon phase is over, there is less social pressure to remain married. When a young couple doesn’t feel as in love as they used to, they have to figure out how to be committed to each other.
Divorce is not an easy time in anyone’s life, although the stigma that was once attached to divorced couples is not as profound as it once was. As a result, couples are a bit more at ease in some cases when it comes to getting a divorce.
Source: Ledger, “Think long term when divorcing in 20s, 30s,” Hollie Deese, March 11, 2017