Military service members are trained to follow protocol, and they're extremely good at thinking on their feet. As such, if the service member you're married to has told you that he or she wants to get a divorce, you will need a plan -- and you'll need to stay creative and flexible with that plan -- just like your spouse is going to do.
The issues relating to a military divorce are different and more difficult to navigate when your divorcing spouse is currently deployed. As such, let's take a look at the steps you should take if you're getting divorced while your spouse is in the middle of his or her deployment:
- Consider contacting a lawyer: You may want to shop around for a lawyer familiar with military divorces, and visit at least three different lawyers before you decide which one is right for you. Your lawyer will guide you through your divorce and protect your legal rights and interest.
- Find a mental health counselor: No matter how tough you think you are, divorce is not easy. You may need to speak with a mental health counselor to help sort out your emotions. The experience can be very helpful and rewarding.
- Get your documents in order: Gather all of your financial documents and other information pertaining to your children and your marriage. Your divorce lawyer will give you a list of everything you'll need to collect.
- Get a handle on your finances: The better you understand your finances -- including monthly bills, debts and assets -- the better you'll be at navigating asset division, which is one of trickiest parts of any divorce process.
- Establish your separation: You'll want to establish the moment when you became separated from your spouse. You may not need to wait until your service member comes back from deployment, and it's important to establish the date of separation as soon as possible.
Are you ready to get your divorce moving? If your military service member has decided to divorce you -- or if you want to divorce your military service member -- while he or she is still deployed. You don't have to wait until the end of deployment. Get your divorce moving now, so you can put the process behind you as soon as possible.
Source: Military.com, "6 Steps Through A Deployment Divorce," Matthew R. Hamel, accessed Nov. 24, 2017