Many intelligent people in Fort Worth, Texas, and Tarrant, Texas, understand the benefits brought by having well-written prenuptial agreements in place before their marriage starts. Prenuptial agreements, often referred to as prenups, establish a mutually agreed-to financial structure for the marriage and for after the marriage if it ends in divorce. Prenups can make very clear what each marital partner expects in regards to the management and control of material assets.
Still, bringing it up can be a bit of a challenge. Your soon-to-be blushing bride or soon-to-be handsome husband may be expecting you to show up with flowers and instead you show up with an ironclad premarital contract. That doesn’t mean don’t do it. That means do it, if it is right for you, but do it with care.
That starts with not delaying it. You shouldn’t spring it on your partner the morning of the wedding, but instead give it to him or her as much ahead of the wedding as possible. That will let them not feel ambushed, and give the two of you plenty of time to talk about the financial aspects of your life together.
You can view it as being like talking about safety. It is better to put precautions in place sooner than to deal with the bad things that would otherwise happen later. Signing a prenup is like putting seat belts and airbags in your car and getting it tuned up as well. They are all things that minimize damage if things go wrong while maximizing the likelihood that things will go right by putting them in good order.
Let your partner know that you care about your future together, and that is why it is important to have understandings about finances clearly established in a prenup. After all, finances are one of the things that break couples up, and the clear understandings and agreements of a prenup help to keep the couple together by putting them on the same page about the future.
Source: HuffPost, “How To Bring Up A Prenup Without Sounding Like A Jerk,” Brittany Wong, Jan. 19, 2018