Kids often have a hard time when they have to go through a divorce with their parents. Sometimes, they feel like they have to take sides, especially if the parents haven’t been good about avoiding conflict, and instead, fighting in front of their children.
Parents don’t want to harm their children with conflict unintentionally. Fortunately, if you recognize that you’re distressing your children, you can take steps to prevent further psychological harm from coming to them.
What should you do to reduce conflict in front of your children?
Divorce is hard enough on children as it is, so if you want to make things easier for them, it’s a good idea to look into ways to stop them from seeing your disputes. Some parents benefit from mediation, and others take it upon themselves to discuss divorce matters when their children are at school or with relatives.
You may also wish to work through conflicts with the assistance of your attorney. Your attorney can listen to your requests and negotiate directly with the other party’s attorney, which can take some of the stress out of your situation.
If you have conflicts when you drop your child off for custody time, you may also want to look into finding a neutral drop-off or safe drop-off site. Sometimes, local police stations, libraries or fire departments offer this service, so that children can wait for their other parent after being dropped off without the risk of both parents meeting.
At the end of the day, your child’s mental health is your responsibility. Take steps to reduce stress, and you’ll see a change.